Jan

07

Guesting – T-Central

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Yesterday was a milestone of sorts for me in that my first ever guest post appeared, on T-Central.

As I mentioned there, T-Central is a wonderful effort put forth by Calie and her team, bringing together so many wonderful blogs and bloggers in one place.  It’s a great place to find many different points of view and experiences.

That said, I was surprised to see that the comments on this special “Crossdresser Experience” series of guest posts evidenced resistance by some transsexual posters to any assertions of genuine femininity by crossdressers – something I found disappointing, and frankly beyond comprehension (not so much the logic but the motivation). 

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Jan

06

A Little Too Nonchalant

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As  I recounted a few weeks ago in the post Batting My Eyelashes, I was pulled over by police while driving, and though I fully knew I would have to give the officer my real driver’s license, I wasn’t the slightest bit trepidatious.

I began to think about this a bit.

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Jan

05

Unwrapping the New Year

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I’m starting the year off with a photo from my holiday photo shoot, one that is bright and happy and sensuous and sexy.  I’m hoping that 2011 will lend itself to the same description.

I suppose it is customary to start the year with a look forward and resolutions or goals for the coming twelve months, and who am I to mess with tradition?  Besides, publicly stating one’s goals has the effect of focusing one’s mind on them, if for no other reason than that so many other people will be aware of one’s failure or success in meeting them.  (It is a well-known fact that people are motivated more by the avoidance of pain than the pursuit of pleasure, so, yes, failure first.)

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Dec

30

Grrr… Enough with the Smiling

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Take me as I am!  This girl doesn’t always smile.  Sometimes she can be sultry, sometimes she can be miserable… sometimes she can try to look sultry and end up looking miserable.  Oh, well!

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Dec

28

Miss-taken – Surprise!

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This year, Boxing Day Night was a Sunday, and Monday being a holiday, the turnout was sure to be good, so I made a point of getting out there.

I found myself sitting at the bar talking to a woman when another young lady approached me.

“Hi, I’m with two friends who would like to meet you,” she said, leaning over and pointing to two guys about 10 feet away.  “Are you interested?”

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Dec

24

Batting My Eyelashes – A Moving Violation

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Got busted today for a moving violation while driving…

I was surprisingly calm about the prospect of introducing myself to the officer as a guy while dressed as Janie.

After a brief discussion, he took my documentation and went back to his cruiser.  He returned a few minutes later, letting me off with a lesser charge.

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Dec

19

Transsexual or Crossdresser or What

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A recent post at T-Central by Alice, of Alice in Genderland fame and an exchange of comments with other bloggers there led me to start thinking again about the makeup of the trans community and my place in it.0595315623.qxd

My first step was to drop in on Alice’s website and gather more info.  There she answers the question posed in the title to this post, basically, “What’s the difference between a transsexual and a crossdresser?”

If I may bottom-line her multi-paragraph answer, it is: “Not much.”

Her point of view tends to infuriate some (many? most? all?) transsexuals, who see nothing at all in common between themselves and crossdressers.  As one blogger put it:

I don’t see a link between the two. The former loves clothing and other accoutrements that are generally considered to be for women. The latter has a profound brain-body disconnect that requires treatment by hormone therapy and surgery. Crossdressers emulate women. Transsexuals change anatomical sex. How are those related?

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Dec

08

You’ve Come a Long Way, Baby!

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(This is the first of what I hope will be more than a few guest posts written by my GF, Emily.)

I have come a long way since I first encountered Janie some four years ago. Of course, Janie has come a long way too.

Although Janie was never hidden from me, and I learned about her at the same time as Janie did herself, I still went through many of the usual trials and tribulations most women go through on learning that her spouse is a crossdresser. Flash forward to the present and I don’t really even think of Janie as a crossdresser now, but rather I think of her as a unique person with many interesting sides, and someone I‘m lucky to share my life with. The best of all worlds in many respects. We have always been the best of friends in addition to lovers, but now I have not only a spouse, a lover, and a boyfriend, but a girlfriend too!

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Dec

03

It’s My Party

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I was reading the About Me page of my blog, and it seems my perceptions of myself have changed somewhat.

In particular, certain statements now ring false to me (and they have been removed).

…no small part of the pleasure I get out of being womanly comes from the guy inside me quietly observing and enjoying Jane’s exploits from within…

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Nov

30

Curiosity

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It’s funny how things work in reverse.

Just the other day, I was remarking about being almost universally perceived as female, even in guy mode.

Well, yesterday, I went shopping as Janie – maybe not full makeup, but lipstick and jewellery and girl clothes – and wouldn’t you know it, I am suddenly an interesting curiosity…

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