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2010Curiosity
It’s funny how things work in reverse.
Just the other day, I was remarking about being almost universally perceived as female, even in guy mode.
Well, yesterday, I went shopping as Janie – maybe not full makeup, but lipstick and jewellery and girl clothes – and wouldn’t you know it, I am suddenly an interesting curiosity…
The sales people at Charlotte Russe were lovely to me, and I spent hours trying on everything in the store… bought half the stuff too, including everything I’m wearing in the photo at right (‘cept the shoes)!
But, while I was sitting on a chair for a rest, there was a youngish couple and their children who simply could not resist sneaking several “surreptitious” peaks at me without my noticing.
…subtle as a hammer…
I also noticed a few others on the street double-checking what they thought they had seen.
Now it may be that I am such a striking beauty that people can’t help but gawk, but I’m putting my money on “Seriously, is that a man wearing that dress?”
As I have remarked many times, I don’t really care, as long as no one is cruel to me. In fact, I am perfectly happy shaking people up a bit.
And “passing” isn’t everything. I’d much prefer to have someone “read” me and be attracted or fascinated by my special nature.
Wouldn’t you?
Linda Marie Daniels
I agree that passing isn’t everything. I’m hardly a veteran at being out, but I’ve found that as long as I feel good about myself, even when I’m “made” (great word), people may be curious but they’re generally not cruel.
Here’s my prejudice: most of the time when I’ve been out, it’s been in a big city. I wonder if things would be different in a small town.
I have to tell you, I love your picture. You look great.
cdjanie
Thanks, Linda. I do believe that small towns tend to be more uniform in their views – wherever they fall on the spectrum. Though most of us talk about that stereotypical bible-belt intolerant midwest small town, there are also places like Provincetown, where nearly everyone is gay or at least accepting; there’s no easier place in the world to be out. I don’t see a need to push things into the most unwelcome corners – at least until everywhere else is hip. It is a slow process that takes time and gradual accustomization and acceptance.
Andrea
Nope, nope, nope! In idealistic Andy-fashion (or Andycandyland), I believe that everyone sees you as the most striking bombshell beauty and therefore, just like me, they cannot take their eyes off your winsome, sparkling beauty! I think that you are more passable as an award winning beauty than 95% of gg’s I know! Nope, it’s your spellbinding beauty, has ta be! Whether they see you as female or something unique and different, much like the prettiest unicorn, it’s the fact that you’re gorgeous that makes ’em wiggle! xxoo
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Well i know if it were.me.i would be looking in admiration of a beautiful woman.and yes i may be wondering what sexy lingerie lies before that fantastic outfit.
It is amazing how people can be. I have had a couple of comments while out shopping. One time a pair of women who obviously were not into their.own physical appearance made a few snide remarks under their breath to.each other but obviously loud enough that i would have to hear. It took me aback and I admit hurt my feelings. However a wonderful women overheard andcame up and complimented me on my legs and choice of outfit. It really made me feel comfortable and we struck up a nice conversation. Really made a negative into a positive.
Always nice to find open-minded people