overstimulated thoughts
May

04

Thoughts on Thoughts

Introspection / Transgender Life  Posted by / 2 comments

As regular followers have no doubt noticed, I have not been posting with my usual regularity recently.

Ah, the blogger’s life…

In the years that I have been writing this blog, I have never lacked for things to write about – such is the nature of the wondrous self-discovery that is part of the t-girl life.

And, to be honest, there are no shortage of ideas rolling around in my empty large head (too large for my body, if you ask me) at the moment.

The problem for me has been quite the opposite. I have had so many thoughts and emotions flitting in and out of my consciousness lately, that I feel like a kitten among mice running around and birds flying about… I can’t focus long enough on one to pin it down.

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Apr

28

Boob-Job Envy

Health and Beauty / Transgender Life  Posted by / 18 comments

Well, another of my friends has just undergone boob surgery, and each time this happens, I can’t help but wonder what it would be like if I were to go that route.

It sure would be nice to have a (more) feminine chest, that’s sure.

But, each of us has her own journey to follow.

Boobies would certainly pose problems in my male life – a life I still hold dear. I would never get really big ones anyway, and so they could be hidden, but still…

But, the more important issue for me is that I am still struggling with the extent and nature of my femininity. Currently, I take great pleasure in my ability to be convincingly feminine without surgery or hormones, and, in fact, I consider that to be my gender identity – that I am naturally able to assume the role of both or either, without the need for drugs or implants.

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gender reassignment surgery comic
Apr

19

Surgery Not Required for Sex Change

Politics and Opinion / Transgender Life  Posted by / 4 comments

A court decision in Canada has struck down a law requiring Gender-reassignment Surgery (GRS) as a precondition to having one’s gender changed on their documentation.

There are undoubtedly people on both sides of this issue who will be unhappy about it – post-op transsexuals who may feel that anyone who can tolerate the “bits” of the opposite gender is not truly transsexual, and others who may feel that this just makes it too easy to play games with one’s gender and official documentation.

But, remember that most people who eventually undergo gender reassignment surgery spend years living as the gender opposite to what their identification indicates. They do this for financial reasons, or even for reasons of uncertainty and fear of going through with the surgery. They are not fooling around; this is serious business in their lives, and having a passport or ID that matches the gender they are living is important.

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Apr

05

We’re In – Miss Universe

Politics and Opinion / Transgender Life  Posted by / 12 comments

miss universe canadaThey’ve decided to reverse their decision over at Miss Universe Canada and allow the transgender contestant to compete.

Those of the school that any publicity is good publicity will suspect that the whole thing was a charade. With “the Trump” behind the contest, such suspicion can only grow.

But, I think the image of the contest has been sullied somewhat. Don’t you?

No matter, I think the whole episode has done the trans community a wonderful service by shining the spotlight on a positive image of our community rather than some of the sordid headlines we often get.

Maybe people will rethink their impressions of what a “tranny” is. One can only hope…

miss universe
Mar

27

There She Goes… – Miss Universe

Politics and Opinion / Transgender Life  Posted by / 2 comments

Miss Universe Canada selected Jenna Talackova as a finalist for the 2012 competition.

But, that was before they found out that she was born male (“assigned male at birth” to be exact).

Can’t have that!

Yes, the pageant immediately disqualified her, wishing her the best in her life outside their little event. Sorry, just the rules; no discrimination here, they said.

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four handed massage
Mar

24

An Utterly Sublime Threesome

Health and Beauty / Transgender Life  Posted by / 5 comments

Their hands caressed every inch of my body, every nook and cranny – well almost. When they were done with me, I was little more than a hunk of quivering Jell-O; it was as if my bones had turned soft.

This was the best threesome I’ve ever had – and I hope to do it again sometime.

For those of you who have never had a “four-handed massage,” I assure you that the experience is exponentially greater than the sum of two plus two.

We are, indeed, talking here of massage, and not euphemistically about anything else. Tsk! Get your minds out of the gutter…

The thing about having two therapists working on you simultaneously is that your whole body is receiving attention at the same time, and you drift into an incredible state of relaxation.

Expensive? Yes. But memorable.

Put it on your bucket list; you won’t regret it.

go ahead dear
Mar

17

Go Ahead, Dear

Out in the World / Transgender Life  Posted by / 2 comments

I’ve been Ma’am-ed before on several occasions while in male mode, but this is a whole new thing.

When someone refers to you as “Ma’am,” they see you as a blank stranger – another person in line, a customer, someone in their way… whatever.

But, today, I was getting on the plane, and a fairly good-looking man in his 40s or 50s stepped out of the aisle to let me pass, looking straight into my eyes with a smile and softly saying, “Go ahead, dear.”

Certainly not an affirmation of my masculinity, that’s for sure!

I am equal parts puzzled, concerned and pleased.

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perfect cappuccino
Mar

16

Cappuccino and Muffin

Food and Drink  Posted by / 2 comments

As I do a lot of work on my computer, I like to get out among people instead of being alone at home.

The result has been a sharp increase in coffee intake, and an appreciation for what’s good and and intolerance for everything else.

I generally drink cappuccino instead of regular coffee – and I do so primarily because it contains a full serving of milk (as opposed to a tablespoon of cream). That makes it less fattening and much healthier.

There are two main things that make or break a cappuccino: the coffee and the milk.

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pregnant man
Mar

09

Mixed up Crazy World – A Pregnant Man

Politics and Opinion / Transgender Life  Posted by / 0 comments

As we push the boundaries of gender, sometimes things just make you shake your head – even people like me. A pregnant man is one of those things.

Not too long ago, there was an article in a local paper about a guy having a baby.  Not surprisingly, it was an FTM transsexual – and one who had taken pains to preserve her reproductive organs during her reassignment surgery.

Now, I am the first to admit that my views on gender are fairly old-fashioned; ironically, it is that point-of-view that is the foundation for my transgenderism, as I am simply unable to incorporate my feminine side into my masculine without destroying the integrity of both, as I see them.

So, this person is clearly the opposite of me, in that she did not feel that becoming a man conflicted with her desire to become pregnant and give birth to children, nor her desire to be in a relationship with a man.

Amazingly, what did give her pause was the idea that having her feet in stirrups in order to receive the insemination would be too feminizing for her masculine self!!

bi-gender second nature
Mar

06

Janie Who? – Second Nature Second Nature

Introspection / Transgender Life  Posted by / 0 comments

I had the honor of being asked to do a guest post on Jessica de Leon’s fabulous blog, Jessica Who? To those of you who don’t know Jessica, she is a warm, outgoing, brilliantly funny, and insightful performer and writer. You owe it to yourself to spend some time with her and her friends.

My post, entitled “Second Nature Second-Nature” was published yesterday.  To read it, click here. [Ed. Note: link disabled]

[Ed. Note from the future: It seems Jessica’s online presence has vanished – I really hope she is alright. If anyone has any information on her, please let me know. In the meanwhile, I have disabled the links originally provided – as someone else has taken over her site – and I am reproducing the content originally seen on her site (it is mine, after all), below.]

Second Nature Second Nature

Ever find yourself dancing around the house, feeling all feminine and joyful – or is that just me?

Umm… well, I am sure we all have our moments of inner contentment and happiness at how we are feeling as our female selves.   In my case, just hearing some of my fave tunes when I am feeling that way will soon have me floating around with the music.  (It would be a lot less embarrassing if I could dance at all…)

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