Oct

10

Honoring My Roots – Y’know, Hair-wise

Health and Beauty / Modeling / Transgender Life  Posted by / 1 comments

Ah, the mysteries of hair color… They say that blondes have more fun. Heck they say I’m blonde… What do they know?

I’m a redhead – the rarest of the basic hair colors. We natural redheads constitute only 1-2% of humanity. Of redheads, Johnathan Swift wrote,

6b48eea19eccd8fc05a47d424aef7743“It is observed that the red-haired of both sexes are more libidinous and mischievous than the rest, whom yet they much exceed in strength and activity.”

Explains a lot… 😉

(For those who want to read more about redheads, try here.)

Anyhoo…

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respect
Oct

06

For Trans Women, Respect of Women is Self-Respect

Politics and Opinion / Transgender Life  Posted by / 7 comments

When I first started out as Janie, I heard that many people considered t-girls misogynistic. I couldn’t believe my ears, feeling that imitation is the highest form of flattery.

But, I do understand now.

There is a cohort of “t-girls” who disrespect themselves and in so doing disrespect women.

They assume the role of womanhood mainly for the purpose of co-opting feminine values in the service of their own masculine desires.

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skin deep
Oct

03

Skin Deep

Health and Beauty / Politics and Opinion / Transgender Life  Posted by / 1 comments

I am pretty hard on myself. But sometimes, the judgments I pass on myself have implications for my understanding of being a tgirl generally.

I sometimes see masculinity in myself in place of my femininity, and I recoil. I know I can fix it through an adjustment of clothing, makeup, hairstyle or attitude, and everything will be ok.

But, what if I couldn’t?

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gender norms not
Oct

01

Miss and Match

Politics and Opinion / Transgender Life  Posted by / 10 comments

I am still having trouble conceptualizing my feelings about gender in certain respects.

We are all, to some extent, a blend of the masculine and the feminine, and transfolk more emphatically so.

But I find certain manifestations of this hard to understand, even as I accept the person’s right to be the way they are.

I know I have mentioned this before but I think I have a bit of a better handle on it now: the way I perceive a photo of a man with a beard, wearing a dress. I am sorry, but I find it to be off-putting. This is just an honest reaction. Obviously his concept of what’s attractive and mine are quite different. Nothing wrong with that.

But, it sets me to wondering why I find his choices so unattractive


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discord
Sep

29

Discord – Masculinity and Makeup in the Mirror

Introspection / Transgender Life  Posted by / 3 comments

I have spoken in the past about the feelings of discord that come from seeing my masculinity contaminate the feminine image I seek to project.

I have offered thoughts on the concept of shame and implied gender chauvinism (as in, “Why would you do that to a perfectly good guy?”).

But, I am coming to a different realization these days


I don’t think it has anything to do with demeaning the male inside me, delusion or questions about the validity of my femininity.

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