Aug
27
The other day, I wrote about feeling like an imposter… which begs the question, “What exactly is the pretence?”
Stated differently, “What is it about being a woman that I am doing that is not authentic?”
Of course, these questions lead into consideration of what being a woman is all about… a bit of a tough question.
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Feb
11
I was watching an episode of Pan Am the other day, in which a stewardess was mortified to find her privately-taken nude photos in a local art gallery.
The gallery owner was quite sympathetic to her embarrassment, but at the same time expressed the profound conviction that the photos were exceptional and beautiful, not for the way they looked but for the way they made him, or viewers generally, feel.
They were art.
Yes, I recognize that porn is also about how it makes you feel, and while we can debate the merits of that another day, the difference here is that the photographs in question touch viewers in far more complex (and even intimate) ways, emotionally and intellectually. Titillation, if at all present, is a subtle nuance rather than a slap in the face (or a yank in the pants).
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Jan
30
[…continued from Play or Pass…]
What does a girl say to a guy she finds handsome and sweet and funny and sexy, who wants to take her to bed with him?
Apparently, this girl says, “No.”
I was not playing games, not teasing him. And, it wasn’t anything like saving myself so that he would respect me in the morning.
Turning down a guy I felt like I wanted to be with was admittedly contradictory, illogical, unpredictable… but also, totally honest, spiritually driven and a move towards intimacy rather than away from it.
I passed on the opportunity for sex mostly because, amazingly, I wanted something else even more.
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23
[…continued from Punctured Charm…]
I was getting on just fine with this guy I met at my fave bar.
Physical attraction? Check. Personal connection? Check. Mutual desire? Check.
We were doing pretty well.
“C’mon, let’s go,” he said.
In the course of our conversation, he had described some of the things he wanted to do to me and the way he would treat me, and what he would have me do to him, and it was exactly as if he was reading my fantasies to me. (Perhaps not the classiest things in the world to say to me at our first meeting, but I was in a forgiving mood. :P)
I tossed around the possibilities in my mind. Should I? …
(Conclusion, next week.)
May
23
Staying at the Hard Rock Hotel, we just had to check out the incredible vibe and energy coming from the club in the lobby.
Unfortunately, it was 1 a.m. and they weren’t letting anyone else in.
As we stood there, forlorn and forsaken outside the velvet rope, Prince Charmin ’ rode to the rescue.
He came up to me and stood in real close, looked me in the eyes and said, “I am so taking you upstairs with me tonight.”
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Mar
26
(…continued from “A Good Man is Hard to Find”…)
In a recent post, I talked about how hard it was to find a good man in pursuit of testing my boundaries as a woman.
More and more, I am starting to feel that, rather than wanting to know how it might feel to be picked up in a bar, I’d much rather find a mate in a different context.
The sad truth is that I am very much starting to think in terms of romance – not love, mind you, but romance.
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Mar
22
For women, finding the right man can be a hard thing to do in the best of circumstances. But, for me, the difficulty is off the charts.
Just being trans whittles down the pool by more than 90%, I figure. But that’s just the beginning.
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15
Many male-to-female crossdressers assert that their crossdressing is the highest form of love of women. But is it possible that instead it may just be a form of chauvinism or closed-minded thinking?
Mea Culpa
I am not sitting in judgment of others so much as contemplating my own existence here.
Maybe I overthink these things, but it occurs to me that part of the attraction to being female might be related to somewhat rigidly defined ideas of what is feminine behavior and what is masculine.
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Feb
28
I continue to be surprised by some of the insights I have gained in my journey between the genders. Sometimes, I feel like a double-agent, infiltrating the feminine ranks in the dating game and bringing back valuable insights for the male side.
In her comments on one of my blog posts about a month ago, Trish reminded me about one such insight, and I have been meaning to write about it ever since, only getting to it now. (Sorry.)
Trish’s very frank comments talk about how she and the men she dates relate to each other, especially sexually.
What caught my eye was her comment about never having an orgasm yet totally enjoying herself.
…don’t know about “never” but…
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28
This year, Boxing Day Night was a Sunday, and Monday being a holiday, the turnout was sure to be good, so I made a point of getting out there.
I found myself sitting at the bar talking to a woman when another young lady approached me.
“Hi, I’m with two friends who would like to meet you,” she said, leaning over and pointing to two guys about 10 feet away. “Are you interested?”
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