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2012Punctured Charm
[continued from My Tall Drink of Water…]
I have found that online interactions are very helpful in breaking the ice for an ultimate in-person meeting. It mitigates the awkwardness of approaching someone or being approached by a stranger, and gives you some context in terms of conversation.
I had just met this guy in a bar – but then again, we already kinda knew each other a bit from our online interaction.
As I sat there in the bar talking with him, I was enjoying myself even though I really had no idea what I was getting myself into.
I continue to be fascinated by the things that strike me so differently as a woman as opposed to my other self. For example, I could literally feel my attraction to him grow stronger when I realized from a story he was telling that he was a smart and sensible man – or at least capable of being one at times.
I guess it made me feel like I was with a sane person with good common sense, and that made me feel safer.
But, his charm was regularly punctuated (perhaps the better word is punctured) by incorrigibly naughty words, crude actions or insensitive behavior – perhaps his way of making sure that I wouldn’t be inclined toward any sort of emotional attachment.
The distinction between offering a woman a relationship and providing a real personal connection in the context of pursuing her may be lost on many men, but this girl was quickly coming to understand it, and herself.
All good so far.
[to be continued next week…]
cyrsti
How different the “other” side lives!
I don’t know when I slowly learned the “other” side to me were males!
I used to be be slightly amused when genetic women confided in me about all the male shortcomings,,,now I sympathize!
janie
It is funny how either I didn’t notice or, more likely, it just didn’t register how different some men’s view of interpersonal relationship with women was from mine.
Edy
I agree that trying to have some connection with a man before I meet them in person to be the best approach for me. While I am not a religious person, I have been adamant about not getting involved with a married man. What I have found is most are and they are keeping this from their wives. I reuse to be someones dirty little secret. And most want me to top them. It seems that when I get these two things out in the open early on, there bubble seems to get burst. I don’t feel gay in any way and when a man starts to be interested in my package it turns me off. I am not giving up but it seems we have a infinitely more difficult time as genetic straight woman have of finding a nice guy.
janie
It is true that we are dealing with a much smaller group of potential mates than GGs are, Edy. But, we are a small contingent too, and those who want us cannot be pleased by anyone else. 🙂
I totally understand how it can be discouraging to constantly be looking for a man for his masculinity while he is looking to you to explore his feminine side. And, of course, knowingly being a party to a man cheating on his wife is not a good idea for so many reasons. Same goes for cheating on one’s own spouse.