Jan
07
Yeah, so I left God out of the title – but this is not about her, this is about grace.
I haven’t really felt all that girly the past few days as work has bogged me down. I scarcely had time for any exercise.
But, today, I demanded from myself that I step away from the computer and do some yoga.
And what do you know, ten minutes into the practice of this graceful, spiritual form of exercise, my feminine spirit was soaring.
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Dec
19
The title of this post comes from one of many punchlines in the brilliant 1960s TV series “Get Smart.” Come to think of it, the title of that series is probably some pretty good advice I should be sternly imparting to myself after today’s events.
Sometimes I think I must lead a charmed life…
Today, I was walking down the street when I heard someone calling my name from behind me. I had just exited a shoe store, in which I had been examining a pair of shiny silver pumps, so hearing my male name startled me a bit. I turned around to find the wife of a close friend of mine smiling at me.
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Dec
08
Another first for me… I went to a lingerie store and picked out a couple of bras to try on.
Normally, I shop in department stores for this kind of thing, and just make a guess, then take them home and try them and return them if necessary. Also, I usually let GF pay, so she can be the one to return them.
Anyway, there was a cute girl dressed in the lingerie store’s own PJ’s in charge of the fitting area. As I approached, she asked me how many items I had, and then, noting the bras, asked their size. Thereafter, she escorted me to my change room, telling me that she had been trained in fitting bras, and would be only to happy to check the fit for me once I had tried them on.
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Nov
19
I was searching online last night for a bar or nightlife in Manhattan that welcomed t-girls, and came across an interesting, but I guess not altogether surprising, phenomenon:
There is pretty well no way to search for anything tgirl without getting utterly mucked up and mired in pornography and prostitution. The search engines have so much of that crap tied to tgirl, or any synonym, that a search is pretty much useless.
The same, incidentally, is true of blogs.
The vast majority of so-called tgirl blogs are simply ads for porn sites.
Is this an indication of something wrong with us? Or what?
Nov
11
We often take our liberties for granted, especially those of us who live where tolerance is common and sensitivity is expected.
But there is a time to reflect on the price that people have paid in places where differences are justification for oppression, or in times that were not so enlightened as these.
Exhibit #1 Memorializing 2011
Memorializing 2011 lists trans people murdered around the world.
I am struck by the fact that these people died simply for doing what I do any time I feel like it with nary a second thought.
Not unnoticed, at least by me, is the marked preference among assailants for the intimate personal touch of killing imparted by the use of a knife rather than a gun.
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Nov
10
We in Canada are proud to say that in our nation’s capital, during the weekend of Transgender Remembrance Day (November 18 – 20), there will be a flag raising at the Ottawa Police Headquarters, honoring the trans community specifically.
It is ground-breaking to be recognized on our own, outside of the GLBT umbrella, of which we seem so often to be a marginal part.
Further significance attaches to the fact that it is the police that are doing this for us, despite the mistrust of many in the trans community of the police.
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Nov
03
Coming across as a woman involves communicating as one – and that’s a much broader concept than one’s actual voice.
Far from the direct and monotone, goal-oriented communication that men use, female speech is differently motivated and but one part of a much more complex form of communication.
To effect a feminine voice, you want to have an acceptable pitch – which is what most of us focus upon. But, there are plenty of women with low voices who are never mistaken for men. So dwell on that for a moment.
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28
This Fantasia Fair had a surprisingly intense focus on voice. Three speech pathologists were in attendance, and 4 seminars on offer, as well as private sessions available.
I took full advantage.
My personal assessment of my female voice is that it is not bad, but could stand improvement. I wanted a professional assessment, as well as some tools to use in order to better myself.
So, I met privately with one of the professionals.
The session began with her engaging me in conversation about myself and my interests, while, unbeknownst to me, a spectrometer was measuring my voice.
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Oct
25
The way I see it, sometimes the simplest things are the sexiest.
You can put on a corset and collar, low-cut bustier, micro-mini skirt and fishnet stockings, spiked thigh-high boots and dramatic makeup and you’ll have something screaming sexy, no doubt.
But, in my view, that’s trying too hard. And the results are more shrill than “sexy” should be.
Sexy is a mood, a feeling… it is something sensual and deep rather than painted on superficially. Its subtlety is what makes it so powerful… it is almost an ambush the way it overwhelms its prey…
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05
Annie Lennox, the gender-bending artist who came to fame as the voice (and soul) of the Eurythmics in the eighties, has recently become the sole focus of an art exhibit at the Victoria & Albert Museum in London called “The House of Annie Lennox” – a take-off on her website name – The House of Me.
She is even going to personally, physically be part of the exhibit. In what she calls “a mix between art, video and showcase,” she will do some of her work at a desk within the display, on view to spectators but not able to see them.
If you don’t know Annie Lennox, treat yourself to a quick search online for her biography. Or, just click this link: http://www.nationalpost.com/news/Diva+display/5452384/story.html
In one of the unusual anecdotes I read, she had to furnish proof that she was actually female before MTV would allow her Sweet Dreams video to air.
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