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outing roasting giant marshmallow on campfire barbecue

Outing Outdoors

One of the things I love most about summer are barbecues… cooking and eating outdoors, en plein air… cold, refreshing beer, the wafting of wood-fired smoke and aromas of slowly cooking meat, the special acoustic qualities of sky and trees on music out of doors, and good friends at a relaxed pace on a long weekend.

A perfect setting for an outing…

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guests under some delusion that I am a man

Delusion – What Exactly Are You Seeing?

I had a bunch of people over for a Canada Day barbecue.

I was dressed as you see me in the photo below, which was taken just after everyone left. Now, what sort of delusion are my friends under that not one of them had any reaction whatsoever, good, bad or indifferent, despite knowing me only as a guy? 

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tempting fate - gender identity

Gender Identity – Tempting Fate

I followed up my performance at that last party by wearing the same teal green booties with white pants and a women’s casual top (and even a bit of mascara) to a dinner party with some of the same friends.

Again nothing.

At one point in the evening, we were discussing some celebrities, and one of the women mentioned that she didn’t like the way Brad Pitt looked with long hair. Too greasy, too droopy, no body – just didn’t look right.

“Maybe they thought that if they gave his hair more body, he’d look too feminine,” I piped in helpfully.

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