how not to do inclusiveness

What Passes for Inclusiveness

We have a little gay magazine here called “In” – as in “inclusive,” I presume.

It sure pretends to be.

Have a look at their cover picture.  See if you can spot the realistic representative of our community…

Actually, there are two trans people in this photo; there’s also an FTM transsexual.

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Kinky Kazaky

Ever heard of Kazaky?

They are an up-and-coming boy band, with multi-million-hit youtube releases of two music videos last year.  Kazaky is a highly sexualized, gender-bending energetic, athletic Ukranian band, pumping out beat-heavy dance anthems that are actually pretty good!

But, what caught my eye – aside from their rock-hard abs and impressively synched dance steps – was that these boys do it in 4-inch heels!

Now, you know that I am not a big fan of mixing and mashing genders, but I do try to keep an open mind and see how each new idea in this regard hits me, as honestly as possible.

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car trouble

Car Trouble

Among the many things I worry about when going out as a girl, car trouble  rarely makes the list.

And, there I was, driving along when my car just up and died on me.  I tried to rouse the patient, but it wasn’t responding.

And, to make matters worse, I had forgotten my cellphone.

I sat there, a little annoyed that my day was about to be ruined when I realized how thankful I should be that I was, at that moment, my guy self.

Phew!!

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buying shoes and clothes

Clothes

6 of 19 © 2011 Connie Tsang; model: Janie Black
clothes

“So you try, you waste a lot of money, but eventually, you kind of get an idea of the kind of clothes you should wear, the kind of clothes that you can’t wear, and then you start focussing in. You start building a wardrobe. You start buying boring things like t-shirts, which you never think about in the beginning, right? You start understanding that there is a reason to have 7 different black skirts, because they’re all completely different. You get an idea of what works for you, and so shopping becomes much easier and much less expensive, and you waste a lot less money. And having a girlfriend who shakes her head sometimes is very helpful.” – Claire Black (Janie)

adolescnce

Adolescence

5 of 19 © 2011 Connie Tsang; model: Janie Black
adolescence

“In the beginning, I think just like pretty much every cross-dresser/T-girl I’ve talked to, it’s kind of like you become an adolescent, sex-crazed teenage girl. You dress like a slut. You wear the shortest skirts, the highest heels, and then you start – some of us – start to focus in on the essence of femininity rather than sexuality, and you kind of mature a little bit.” – Claire Black (Janie)