Jul
27
I think we got a new mailman. For the past few weeks, I have found letters only halfway put through the mail slot, which I find upsetting for two main reasons. First, they get rained on, and I get a wet rag instead of a letter. And second, they are vulnerable to anyone coming by and pulling them out, and getting access to my private information in that way.
I always thought that mail was a minor miracle – how you write an address on an envelope, add a few cents postage, and it gets delivered with surprising accuracy and speed to places near and far. But I am doing what I can to reduce my mail deliveries because I can see so many vulnerabilities in the system – one of which is mail left sticking out of mailboxes. It is a surprisingly difficult task to accomplish because certain important places, like government, ignore your preferences and send sensitive mail regardless.
Being peeved at my mailman meant I was always on the lookout for the guy, so I could grab him and shake him and ask him what was the matter with him that he couldn’t put the mail INSIDE the mailbox. And my chance came last week, just at the end of a pretty tough outdoor workout.
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Dec
12
A number of years ago, I wrote about Nicole, a friend of mine who gave up crossdressing/transitioning despite being the prettiest and most feminine t-girl I had ever met. This person decided that it was all a fraud, and he could satisfy all his needs as a beautifully feminine gay man – almost a yaoi character, if you will. (See my post Yowza Yaoi! for my take on this term, and Wikipedia for a more scholarly description.)
The reasons for his decision that the whole transgender experience for him was not authentic had to do with the way his treatment changed from one moment to the next at the hands of the same people, based solely on his gender presentation. (A wig coming off would be a relationship-changing moment, for example.) It seems their like or dislike, attraction or revulsion for him was based not on his genuine soul and personality but on the way he dressed and groomed himself and the efforts he made to transform his gender or not.
I am sure his own self-perception was similarly affected – and I say this out of personal experience.
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