Jan
21
The always insightful and elegantly expressed Petra Bellejambes, whom I am proud to count as a friend, pointed out recently the separateness of gender and sexuality, at least for her.
Our feminine experience alters us to varying degrees. Some are exactly the same person regardless of gender expression. Some find gentler and subtler aspects of themselves in their femininity, and even use that as a way of improving their male selves.
Some transform only for sex; for others, sex does not play a part at all.
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Sep
29
I have spoken in the past about the feelings of discord that come from seeing my masculinity contaminate the feminine image I seek to project.
I have offered thoughts on the concept of shame and implied gender chauvinism (as in, “Why would you do that to a perfectly good guy?”).
But, I am coming to a different realization these days…
I don’t think it has anything to do with demeaning the male inside me, delusion or questions about the validity of my femininity.
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Jan
16
[continued from My Tall Drink of Water…]
I have found that online interactions are very helpful in breaking the ice for an ultimate in-person meeting. It mitigates the awkwardness of approaching someone or being approached by a stranger, and gives you some context in terms of conversation.
I had just met this guy in a bar – but then again, we already kinda knew each other a bit from our online interaction.
As I sat there in the bar talking with him, I was enjoying myself even though I really had no idea what I was getting myself into.
I continue to be fascinated by the things that strike me so differently as a woman as opposed to my other self. For example, I could literally feel my attraction to him grow stronger when I realized from a story he was telling that he was a smart and sensible man – or at least capable of being one at times.
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