go ahead dear

Go Ahead, Dear

I’ve been Ma’am-ed before on several occasions while in male mode, but this is a whole new thing.

When someone refers to you as “Ma’am,” they see you as a blank stranger – another person in line, a customer, someone in their way… whatever.

But, today, I was getting on the plane, and a fairly good-looking man in his 40s or 50s stepped out of the aisle to let me pass, looking straight into my eyes with a smile and softly saying, “Go ahead, dear.”

Certainly not an affirmation of my masculinity, that’s for sure!

I am equal parts puzzled, concerned and pleased.

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Cappuccino and Muffin

As I do a lot of work on my computer, I like to get out among people instead of being alone at home.

The result has been a sharp increase in coffee intake, and an appreciation for what’s good and and intolerance for everything else.

I generally drink cappuccino instead of regular coffee – and I do so primarily because it contains a full serving of milk (as opposed to a tablespoon of cream). That makes it less fattening and much healthier.

There are two main things that make or break a cappuccino: the coffee and the milk.

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pregnant man

Mixed up Crazy World – A Pregnant Man

As we push the boundaries of gender, sometimes things just make you shake your head – even people like me. A pregnant man is one of those things.

Not too long ago, there was an article in a local paper about a guy having a baby.  Not surprisingly, it was an FTM transsexual – and one who had taken pains to preserve her reproductive organs during her reassignment surgery.

Now, I am the first to admit that my views on gender are fairly old-fashioned; ironically, it is that point-of-view that is the foundation for my transgenderism, as I am simply unable to incorporate my feminine side into my masculine without destroying the integrity of both, as I see them.

So, this person is clearly the opposite of me, in that she did not feel that becoming a man conflicted with her desire to become pregnant and give birth to children, nor her desire to be in a relationship with a man.

Amazingly, what did give her pause was the idea that having her feet in stirrups in order to receive the insemination would be too feminizing for her masculine self!!


Janie the Boss

I was recently asked to take charge of a certain event. The organizers evidently thought that I had what it takes to be authoritative and competent in doing the job.

However, in anticipating my role, I had what could only be described as an identity crisis.

After all, telling people what to do is something I feel so much more comfortable doing as my male self. I don’t conceive of Janie being an authoritarian.

Moreover, it has been my practice generally to do the things that feel more masculine as a guy, and the more feminine as a woman.

This little job will force me to go against type, if you will, and as such, should be an interesting challenge.

I’ll let you know how it turns out.

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Janie Who? – Second Nature Second Nature

I had the honor of being asked to do a guest post on Jessica de Leon’s fabulous blog, Jessica Who? To those of you who don’t know Jessica, she is a warm, outgoing, brilliantly funny, and insightful performer and writer. You owe it to yourself to spend some time with her and her friends.

My post, entitled “Second Nature Second-Nature” was published yesterday.  To read it, click here. [Ed. Note: link disabled]

[Ed. Note from the future: It seems Jessica’s online presence has vanished – I really hope she is alright. If anyone has any information on her, please let me know. In the meanwhile, I have disabled the links originally provided – as someone else has taken over her site – and I am reproducing the content originally seen on her site (it is mine, after all), below.]

Second Nature Second Nature

Ever find yourself dancing around the house, feeling all feminine and joyful – or is that just me?

Umm… well, I am sure we all have our moments of inner contentment and happiness at how we are feeling as our female selves.   In my case, just hearing some of my fave tunes when I am feeling that way will soon have me floating around with the music.  (It would be a lot less embarrassing if I could dance at all…)

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