Transgender Life

apology and thanks


Recently, I undertook the task of going through my blog posts to get a sense of my history. It has been a bit of a humbling experience – so much so that I think I owe my loyal and persistent commenters an apology.

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janie golfing happier

Golf + Bubble Baths – Why I’m Happier as a Woman

I always knew that I was happier as a woman, but I’m only just starting to realize why.

I played golf today with a couple of my old male friends. I shanked my share and hit some plain stupid shots, but y’know what? It didn’t affect my mood one iota. Not to put too fine a point on it, but that’s not exactly the way it was in my prior life. Today, all I cared about was being outside on a beautiful day playing a fun game with friends. And, I was happy.

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What's My Reality - Man or Woman

Reality is in the Eye of the Beholder

I am starting to question my grip on reality. Or, perhaps my friends’.

Last week I played golf for the first time openly as a woman. It was also the first one-on-one time I have had with this golf-buddy of mine since I told him I was trans. Of course, old habits die hard, especially when there is no occasion to practice new things, and he couldn’t help saying things like, “You’re up, big g–! Oops! Sorry!” He freely admitted that he still sees me as a guy, notwithstanding my adorable light-mauve golf dress and makeup. He’s known me as a guy for decades, and it is hard for him to see me any other way.

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Playing Hockey is the Weirdest Thing

janie the hockey playerI used to have a t-shirt that said, “Hockey is Life, the rest is just details.” Well, I was much younger back then… The details are everything now; and hockey has been a casualty until now.

A lot has happened in my life since I have written anything personal here. That simply playing hockey with my friends is such a big deal is but a hint. I used to play all the time, but as my feminine life took over, anything that required me to assume a male role kinda fell by the wayside. Now, as you can see by the photos, hockey no longer requires me to be a guy. And, reading between the lines, the other message is that all my old guy friends know that I am transgender and have been wonderful in accepting me and keeping me involved in our group.

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Erasing Trans

ABC7 News came out with a story entitled Mom Issues Warning After $5 Online Purchase Kills Son. It describes the dangers of the pong pong seed, the mother’s anguish over the self-inflicted death of her son and her determination to raise awareness about this poison from the so-called Suicide tree.

The article quotes the woman as saying that her child was transgender and struggling with the desire to live life as a woman, recently changing his name to Lucia, and that she wasn’t aware of any depression or suicidal thoughts, though he was bullied for many years in school. 

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Why Don’t People Accept Our Womanhood?

I read an article today written a few years ago by Parker Molloy for Here’s the link: It provides a nice refutation of a catalog of arguments that people use to deny trans women’s womanhood.

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How It Is to Be You

A fascinating woman named Linda Coussement has undertaken a project she calls “How It Is to Be You,” in which she is “slowly travelling the world, asking all sorts of people ‘how it is to be you?'” She is profiling people’s senses of themselves to help “people understand themselves and each other a little bit better.”

Maybe she’s right in hoping that she can make a difference in people’s lives. I’d like to think so.

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Fairytale Fantasy Ball

Almost two weeks ago, they held the Fairytale Fantasy Ball – a gala event for the transgender community where transwomen and admirers came to enjoy a fancy evening of dining and dancing. The theme was Disney Fairy Princesses, but many of the women in attendance just came in nice gowns.

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Vanity Fair Cover Call Me Janie


Vanity Fair Cover Call Me Janie

Call Me Janie

Interesting thing this MyVanityFairCover (‪#‎MyVanityFairCover) movement.

By making Vanity Fair covers of their own, some transwomen are protesting the cis-normative, white-privileged image they say Caitlyn Jenner is perpetuating of what trans women are. Funny though that almost every MyVanityFairCover I have seen is of a cis-normative white trans woman.

Of course we trans women come in all shapes, sizes, races and colors, but having a household name come out as trans is the biggest gift we could ever have had. It normalizes us; it allows millions of people who have never known what a trans person was to intersect with us. Instead of characterising the Vanity Fair portrayal as restrictive and incomplete, let’s just revel in Caitlyn’s courage and be thankful for the generous attention paid to her.

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thinking about discrimination

An Open Letter to Supporters of Religious Freedom/Anti-LGBT Laws

I understand that transgender or homosexual people may seem to you to be odd, or unnatural, or off-putting, or even a wrong choice. Many of you may have even made your determination without ever having met one of us or carefully researching the facts. I understand that the way we lead our lives may conflict with the way your religion instructs you to lead yours.

As much as we wish you didn’t feel that way about us (and would like to work to foster a better understanding of one another), rest assured that we have no desire to interfere with your beliefs or the exercise of your religion. We This business serves everyone without discriminationjust want to live our lives in peace and with dignity, much in the same way as you do. The greatest thing about our society is the way people of different backgrounds, races, colors, beliefs and opinions can live together in harmony. It makes all of us richer, happier and stronger.

Look around the world at the places where people try to impose their beliefs on everyone else.

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